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If you are not ready to take on full-time parenting , you can still give your baby the gift of life and a stable home environment by planning an adoption. You can plan your baby's future by selecting a loving family to care for your baby the way you would love to if the timing and circumstances were different, and you can be proud of your decision. At birth, if you wish, you can see your baby, name your baby, hold your baby. If you so choose, after leaving the hospital, you can get updates on your child's progress while you continue your education and career goals. Finally, you avoid the trauma and heartache of abortion.
2. Can I place my baby with a family of my choice?
YES! You have the option to choose the family, either someone you already know, or by selecting a family from a resume file. In PA you may work with a licensed adoption agency or you may plan a private adoption and work with an attorney to handle the legal paperwork. In PA all families who want to adopt must be screened and have criminal clearances and child abuse clearances.
3. How much contact can I have with my baby after birth and after adoption?
You may have as much contact with your baby in the hospital as is comfortable for you. You can choose an open adoption that allows ongoing contact, or you can choose a less open adoption where your updates come through letters and pictures arranged through your agency. Adoptive families respect your need to know your child is well cared for.
4. How soon after birth can my baby go to the parents I choose?
This depends on: 1.) your
choice of when this should happen 2.) the legal aspects of the adoption 3.) the
cooperation of the birth father.
5. How much will my child know about me?
We encourage you to provide medical and social history to your child. You may choose to share with the adoptive family your identity and where you live. Or, if you have a more open adoption, your child and adoptive family can have ongoing access to you and what's happening in your life.
6. Does the father have any rights?
The birth father's rights are equal to yours. If he disagrees on adoption, or you no longer have a relationship with him, the adoption professional of your choice will work with the court to determine if his rights can be terminated.
7. Will my child have information about her/his birth father?
This depends on his cooperation with you and the adoption worker. Some birth fathers give full social and medical history, realizing how important it is for your child to have this. At other times, only the information you give will be passed on. Some birth fathers participate in open adoptions as well.
8. Can my child find me if he/she wants to search someday?
If you choose open adoption, and choose to stay in contact with your child and his family, he will never need to "search" for you. If you choose not to remain in contact, you may register with the state of PA indicating that you are willing to have the child contact you when he is 18, if he is interested.
9. How can I be sure my child will not be abused or neglected?
All adoptive families in PA must be approved by a social worker and must meet standards that will be shared with you. This is called a "home study." If you would like to meet the adoptive parents in person, you may request to do so, to make sure you feel comfortable asking them to raise your child. In an open adoption you will see for yourself how well your child is valued and cared for.
10. What if I'm afraid I'll change my mind?
The most important part of carefully weighing parenting versus adoption is to
counseling. Your counselor will
help you weigh the positive and negative points of both, to make sure you feel
proud of whichever loving choice you make for your baby.
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This information is intended for general educational purposes only and should never be relied upon as a substitute for professional medical advice.
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